Ever notice how some people seem to get along with everyone at work and effortlessly persuade others?
The secret lies in the concept of “liking.”
Listen, I am the last person who’s going to tell you to “worry about whether others like you or not.”
However, I know without a doubt that when people like me, they are more likely to support my ideas and collaborate with me.
Take Tom, a Plant Manager known for his easy-going nature, positivity, and genuine interest in his colleagues.
Whenever Tom needed help or had a new production or financial project idea, people were eager to pitch in.
His secret?
He had mastered the art of “liking.”
The art of “liking” has nothing to do with being overly nice, being a doormat, or avoiding conflict out of fear of not being liked.
Here’s How to “Do” Liking:
1. Find Common Ground:
- Discover shared interests or experiences with your colleagues.
- Example: “I noticed you’re a fan of hiking. I love hiking too! Have you tried the new trail at the park?”
2. Show Genuine Interest:
- Listen actively and show genuine curiosity about others’ lives.
- Example: “Did you get a chance to work on that home project you mentioned this past weekend?”
3. Give Compliments and Praise:
- Sincerely acknowledge others’ efforts and achievements.
- Example: “Your presentation last week was fantastic. I learned so much from your insights.” (No “but” please.)
By building genuine rapport and finding common ground, you can significantly increase your likability factor at work.
It’s important not to seek to be liked for an ego boost or for superficial reasons.
Genuine connections lead to better collaboration and support, period.
Remember, people are more likely to be persuaded by those they genuinely like and feel connected to.
With love,
Mari Carmen
