Do you want to say more, get more, and be more?
The first step to achieving the “more” that you’re looking for is to learn how to express yourself in an assertive way effectively:
1. Find common ground
This first tip works like magic. When you disagree with someone, always lead the conversation from where you agree, not where you differ. This applies even (and especially) when you’re upset with the person you disagree with. Starting on common ground will disarm the other person and will set the conversation on more peaceful terms.
2. Do not give up when the conversation gets uncomfortable
Maybe you never get to the point of being assertive because you back off too early in the process. Next time, be intentional about staying in the tension. What you want is on the other side of that difficult moment.
3. Examine your inner dialogue
What messages are you telling yourself when you confront these difficult conversations? Are they positive or negative? Raise your awareness about your inner dialogue. You want those words to become not a deterrent but a source of power and encouragement.
Learning how to be more assertive will change the way you show up to conversations and will pave the way for you to achieve your goals.
You’ve got this.
With love,
Mari Carmen
